Danish Men — What Are They Like in a Relationship?

Here are some relevant tips for a foreign woman who consider to date a danish man:

Of course, all people on Earth have their pros and cons, and that is also applicable for the Danish man. But most Danes’ pros are what makes them live a rather happy and balanced life, which you often will benefit from if you are dating a Danish man.

As mentioned in one of our other articles one of the cornerstones in our Danish Society is "Hygge" and hygge is defined as:

Hygge = Taking pleasure from the presence of gentle, comforting, and soothing things - a feeling of friendship, warmth, peace, and contentment in a comfortable and cozy atmosphere.

Most Danes love and use "hygge" as a big part of their daily life, and that is important to know if you are considering dating a Danish man. Besides "hygge" we will also talk about the real Danish traits that you can appreciate if you are looking for a relationship with a Danish man. These traits are the ones that make most Danes live happily overall.

But of course, it’s the total sum of personality that matters - balancing the good things with the bad ones. Here are some of the basic things, that most Danish men are living after:

Respect — The Danish men are often very respectful of other people’s privacy. This is sometimes taken to the extremes though but the result is a positive one. No meddling with other people’s lives and wasting your and their time with worthless things, like gossip or conspiracy. That leads us to the next point.

Straightforwardness — Most Danish men typically cut to the point. They hate too much talking for no reason. They prefer to get straight to the point and express themselves rigorously.

Openness & honesty — Most Danish men rarely hide their opinion. They like to express themselves openly and present things as they are, even if they seem to be against them. It's much better than having to constantly guess what the man is thinking or saying nothing about.

Punctuality — Time is another precious resource of the Danish man. Most Danish men don’t like to waste it. Appointments are what they mean. You say at 19.00, you meet at 19.00, not later but not much earlier either. Oh! And things like meetings must last the minimum necessary time. Productivity matters.

Credit to other people — A Danish man will typically always acknowledge and give credit to other people, circumstances, or even luck. Don’t be turned off and misinterpreting it as false humility. A Danish man is just typically awkward with praise for doing their best. It’s better than having a guy who boasts about things he hasn’t done, in our opinion. At least you don’t get the disappointments you do from somebody who promises to break the bed but barely ruffles the sheets by the time it’s all over.

"Hygge" — As mentioned above a very important of the Danish way of living is "Hygge". Hygge" is a term that goes far in illuminating the Danish soul. In essence, "Hygge" is about creating cozy social gatherings and intimate get-togethers with family and friends. It's the feeling of wellbeing and warm atmospheres. Therefore "Hygge" is a very important part when a Danish man start up a relationship.

Humor — Many says that the birthplace of humor is Denmark. People use humor a lot in Denmark, and often also toward themselves too. No need to be ashamed of things. Many danish men throw some self-sarcasm and no one will take anything so seriously. Humor makes things and your daily life so much easier.

What is it that makes these traits so important?

Look! There are some fundamental Nordic values that lie beneath these very Danish traits. They are common in most Nordic societies today and have their roots in the local culture. Is there a reason to copy-paste these traits ?

Well, yes. Because they are free resources. Remember.... Time is one of the most valuable assets you have. Imagine being honest, to the point, and punctual. How much time can you save from things that are potentially not important, which you can now invest in your own happy life? A loooot!

And it is also about trust. People know what other people feel or believe. There is nothing to hide or worry about. All cards are face-up on the table. This builds trust because you know that others are what they seem and you have no reasons to feel bothered or threatened. Trust makes the need for control vanish. And again you get resources freed (time and energy) to focus on your personal happiness and goals.

And if things get tough, say “pyt” (let us move on) like most danish men will say, let go of all the negativity and move forward, in a positive way!

Therefore with knowledge and understanding, then happy, strong, and meaningful relationships with mutual enjoyment are indeed with good changes when people from different cultures pursue the love carousel together (we already see this a lot here in Denmark) as long as you are positive, curios and openminded toward other people with a different background and culture.